Is It Time For the Big “M”?

You’ve been dating the same woman for three years now. Things are fantastic between the two of you. She’s all you’ve ever wanted in a mate – caring, loving, and an excellent cook. As for you, you’ve been the perfect partner. You make her feel like a princess and most of all, secure about the relationship.

So after dating all this time, you start to ask yourself: “When should I make the move?” In other words, when is it right to propose marriage. The “Big M”. This is a question many men ask themselves. This becomes extremely apparent especially when dating someone for a few years.

While there is no concrete answer, it does depend on several factors. Time is hardly the best gauge. Although it is best to get to know each other before taking the plunge, the number of years isn’t an accurate barometer as to when one should propose marriage.

So what are the factors one should consider when thinking about “popping the question”? Let’s find out:

1.    Finances: This is probably one factor that is high on most people’s priorities. After all, marriage and raising a family doesn’t come cheap. Financial stability, being financially responsible, having a stable job, and so on are just some things to consider. It isn’t just you anymore. There is your spouse and the children you will be having. As your family grows, so do your financial requirements.

2.    Emotional Stability: This is yet another major consideration when thinking about marriage. Whether we like it or not, marriage isn’t a fairytale where the couple lives “happily ever after”. Various demands such as adjustment periods, misunderstandings, bills, and so forth can take their toll on anyone. An emotionally mature individual will not walk out at the first sign of trouble. He or she will ride it out, no matter how tough it gets. As the saying goes, “when the going gets tough, the tough get going”. That’s going and going, like the Energizer bunny. And not “going out the door”.

3.    Ask yourself this question: Do I love him/her enough to really stick, till death do us part?” Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Key words here are “lifetime” and “commitment”. These two actually go hand in hand. But taken separately, they still carry serious weight. As mentioned above, there will be ups and downs, sickness and health, richer and poorer. All of this until the day you die. Are you willing to be by your spouse’s side through all these?

There are other factors to consider. Some of these can only be determined by you based on your situation. The aforementioned items are the “basics”, if you will. Remember that dating isn’t just having a good time. It’s about seeing whether or not the two of you can indeed have a life together. A life of being together, ever after.

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