How A Guy Can Avoid Rejection

The hardest part of dating for a guy is probably the moment he asks the girl out. If she agrees, then all is well. But if she rejects him, it can be very hard to bear. This is especially so if the rejection is the second, third or even the fourth in a row! His self confidence will be at a zero level. His self esteem will be at vanishing point, and he will likely be bewildered and confused, wondering what’s the matter with no ready answers at hand.

It’s likely that he will start off addressing the visual things. He might dress differently, thinking that his dress sense is possibly at fault. He might change his after shave thinking that a different, more expensive smell might make things better. Or he might try to come up with a different chat up line in the hope that it will bowl her over. It won’t most of the time. In fact, none of these things are the real reasons why he’s being rejected. Here’s how a guy can avoid rejection and start living again.

1. Ease off on the desperation. You might not think it, but you become more and more desperate after being rejected for a date. It shows and she can sense it too. She can tell that you are desperate and not interested – there’s a big difference. Girls need to feel that you want her for herself, and not simply because she is a girl and you desperately need a date to prove to your mates that you have what it takes. Try to see it from her point of view and lose the desperation.

2. Be friendly. All too often the idea of being friendly when asking for a date seems silly. After all, dating is a friendly practice. However, too many guys become too clinical in their dating habits. They seem to forget that open friendliness should be the basis of dating. Try talking more easily. Small talk is a great ice breaker. Embarrassing silence kills a date. Talk to her as if you have known her all your life. It’s that easy smooth way of talking that is open and friendly that everyone likes. People open to you when you can talk like that, and rejection becomes a lot less likely too.

3. Talk about her. Don’t hog the conversation once you’ve managed to start one. Ask her about herself and make her interests important. We all love to be the centre of attention even if we don’t always realise it. Don’t interrogate the girl; just gently persuade her to tell you all about herself. If she asks about you then of course you should answer, but bring it back to her as soon as it’s appropriate. She will like being made to feel important.

Rejection can be difficult to handle. However, try to think like Edison, the inventor of the incandescent light bulb. He had 1,000 attempts to get it to work before he eventually succeeded. When asked by a reporter how it felt to have failed 1,000 times, he replied, “I didn’t fail. The light bulb was an invention that took 1,000 steps to complete.”

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