Don’t let the credit crunch cause a crisis in your love life

We’re all hearing about the credit crunch and the world economic crisis these days. Several countries have declared themselves to be in recession and the end is nowhere in sight. We can understand how finances may suffer in such a situation, but love? Surely not…

There’s an old saying: “When money goes out the door, love flies out the window.” Unfortunately, it seems to be a true saying most of the time. When finances get tight feelings of romance and passion are often hard to come by.

This makes sense when you consider that our emotions drive our lives to a large degree. Feeling good about a partner requires inner peace without external conflicts. When the end of the month looms close, and there are bills to pay that will severely stretch – or even break – the available funds, it’s easy to see how love might suffer.

There’s more at stake in this kind of a situation though. For married couples there are the unspoken agreements they made to each other. As long as each partner can honour the unspoken agreements (I’ll do A,B, and C if you’ll do D, E and F), everything is usually fine. But if the breadwinner, usually the husband, suddenly finds himself unemployed because of the recessionary times we live in, then, unfair as it might seem, he is no longer keeping up his side of the bargain, and for that reason the relationship might start to suffer.

His wife might start wondering why he can’t simply find another job. He will probably wonder what he did wrong. After all, it wasn’t his fault that he lost his job when the whole world is suffering financially. He may start to find fault with some of the things his wife does, even if there is no fault, and the whole thing will start to spiral down.

It isn’t only married couples either who could experience problems through the credit crunch. Anyone in a long term relationship who suddenly finds themselves in an unexpected financial situation where money becomes tight may find love flying out the proverbial window. It will most likely be a time when the deprived partner needs all the support and sympathy he or she can get. All too often, though, human nature takes over and the opposite happens.

For any couple who think they might be facing a similar situation of one partner losing a job, or otherwise having less money to spend than they are accustomed to, it’s time to sit down and talk things over. Discuss how you will react to the situation. Discuss how you will plan to put the situation right together. Discuss your relationship above all and discover what really matters.

There’s another old saying, “Love conquers all.” It can, but you have to let it and you have to work at it. The current credit crunch and financial crisis that’s hitting everyone is probably not going away soon. It will eventually, but you have to ride out the storm first. It’s important, therefore, that you get your priorities right and let your love conquer. Never let it fly out the window, for then it can be too late.

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