Are You Making These Deadly Dating Mistakes?

Dating should not be all about perfection. You should go to a dating site with the hope that you can find someone you are attracted to and who likes you back, and you hope that it will lead to something greater in time, but you should not expect the perfect match right out of the gate. If it happens, then that’s fine, but if not, then that’s life. Here are 5 deadly dating mistakes you should always avoid.

1. Don’t compare. All too often people go on dating sites immediately after a break up with someone. Although they don’t always realise it, they then start looking for their ex in everyone they meet. This is a tactic that will kill the chances of any success. If you are really finished with your ex, stay finished. Start anew and see other people as they are and not through eyes that still see the one who just dropped you.

2. Don’t expect to find a date who will replace the boring things in your life. If your life is boring now, it may well still be boring when you have a date. If you wait to find a date to make your boring life exciting, you will probably wait a long time. Stop being boring and your life will follow. Then when you find a date they can share in your life and you will both benefit.

3. Don’t search for the perfect dating match. It probably doesn’t exist. Sometimes perfection is something that grows. Many long lasting and satisfying relationships started off on a not so good footing. But they grew to become perfect, or near perfect, over time. Love at first sight is not as common as it is sometimes made out to be. Instead of searching for perfection, look for something in another person that is good and acceptable. Stay optimistic, but not desperate and you are likely to have a much better experience.

4. Don’t talk too much about yourself on the first date. Everyone with few exceptions enjoys another person asking things about them. I don’t mean an interrogation, but gentle questions about where a person grew up, what kind of hobbies they have and so on can be flattering to anyone. Never pry too closely. Enquiring about the colour of another person’s underwear for example is simply crass and usually guaranteed to stop a budding relationship dead. Show a healthy interest in the other person and don’t dominate the conversation with me, me, me. They will be flattered and see you as a caring person.

5. Don’t indulge too much on a first date. If you both go to a restaurant, for example, don’t eat too much. Sitting across the table from a stranger who gorges on every morsel of food available is frankly quite disgusting. Be moderate with everything. This, of course, applies to drinking too. Don’t get drunk. It certainly gives off the wrong message as no one wants to start a relationship with someone who appears to be an alcoholic.

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